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Tradition


Culture and tradition are bound together, different and yet inextricably united. Culture is the present life of a people that makes them who they are as a unit. Tradition ties them to their past and shapes the present reality. They are a rich source of identity and grounding, yet for all that they are not infallibly good. Both culture and traditions need to be judged on how well they serve and build up the good if a community.

Here in Malawi there is a culture that rejoices in life and the bringing into the world of every new baby. In consequence, there are babies everywhere, tiny beautiful African babies, but some of those babies are strapped to the backs of girls who are 14 or 15 years old. The father's of these babies? Frequently unknown.


I have been told by many here that Malawians are "hot," and the girls always ready for a man. If what I am told is true, there is little fidelity and promiscuity the norm. This is the culture.


The dances and music of a culture seem to capture the identity of a people in a way that no other medium can, almost the manifestation of a people's soul. In watching the traditional dances at our school feast, I was struck by a power, unity, and energy. There were, however, some dances that seemed to reveal a problematic part of Malawian culture.

One of the traditional dances that was performed and another that was rejected at rehearsals because it was a love song with inappropriate words (it was in Yao and none of the girls who wanted to perform it knew what the words meant, but a teacher present did), have moves that imitate the sexual act. No Malawian that I have encountered has a problem with this, even when little children join in. Yet, from comments I've heard, human nature is consistant here as in the US with associating certain ways of moving with certain actions, and when women and men move certain ways certain thoughts and desires arise. To syllogize and quote a wise person, "sow a thought reap an action."


You may call me prudish and judgemental, but you cannot deny the high pregnancy rate among young girls in Malawi and the norm of single mother homes with many children by many men. In staying with a Malawian professor, she commented on her maid, "her blood is so hot; she'll go with any man." I've heard similiar comments made about village women. While some of these comments may be due to the prejudice that the educated have for the uneducated the world over, there does seem a lot of evidence to support their comments. And so last week, a form 3 girl was sent home from Our Lady, her education suspended, as she is several months pregnant.

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Kathleen Lange
Kathleen Lange
Mar 08, 2023

I'm not sure that what you are observing is that much different than what happens in the U.S. One difference is that at least in Seattle Public Schools a pregnant teenage girl would be encouraged to continue her education and there would be supports in place to help her. In the U.S., like Malawi, the father's are long gone before the baby is born, and this isn't just teens, but adult women. In the U.S. there is an effort to identify fathers especially for women on state programs (medicaid). In my experience, for the most part parents of pregnant teenage girls and NOT happy about this, but often end up raising the children anyway.


I suspect with contraception and abortion…


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Hannah Graves
Hannah Graves
Mar 11, 2023
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Yes, in some respects, I think you are right that the behavior of teens here and in Malawi is the same, but there is a difference in the cultural attitude.


Several years ago, a girl became pregnant at OLL and the principal was so worried about how the parents would react both towards the girl and the school. When they arrived at the home village, she got out first and left the girl in the car. She told the mother and grandmother, they both burst into ululations and rejoicing and hugging the girl, declaring that she was now a woman.


As to the economic status of our students, most are comparatively well off by Malawian standards, although quite a number…


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